A good friendship is a glorious and amazing thing. In a good friend you have someone with whom you can share your fears and dreams; your thoughts and gripes. However, just like a romantic relationship, friendships sometimes come to an end. As the saying goes...some people come into your life for a reason or a season. At least I think that's how the saying goes, I can't really remember.
I recently decided to end a long friendship. I didn't tell her it was over. We didn't have an argument or fight. She betrayed my trust and for me that's unforgivable.
When I made the decision to end the friendship, I thought about confronting her and bringing the betrayal to her attention. That was the advice I received from our mutual friends. But I chose not be melodramatic about it and just let her go because while the confrontation may help me alleviate my frustrations it won't change the outcome.
The way I see it I had only have two options: confront her or get over it. I chose to get over it. Yes the betrayal hurt...but it didn't kill me or make me jaded about other friendships or life. I viewed it as information. She showed me a side of her that I didn't like and I learned that I'm strong enough to handle the disappointment.
When we run into each other I'm very cordial and warm. I love her and wish her well. But I need friends in my life who understand that having my back means keeping my secrets a secret and for that reason my dear, "we can't be friends."
Have you had a similar experience with a friend? How did you get over it?