When I'm in a bad mood, the last thing I need is someone invading my thoughts trying to make me feel better. Bad moods are okay. We don't need to cleansed of these feelings. Besides, if optimism could really cure all that ails us, we would only focus on the bright side, right?
Life isn't always rainbows, sunshine and lollipops. Sometimes, it bloody sucks. Well, situations suck and when I'm trying to figure out how to problem solve, I don't need anyone dismissing my feelings by telling me to look at my problems from a more optimistic perspective. In my opinion, slapping a positive spin on a negative situation doesn't stop me from worrying; it just masks my troubles.
Here's what I know to be true, even in the suckiness of life, we can find clarity. It's okay for us to feel like a hot mess, not have it all together...embrace these emotions. There's no shame in it. I've never been good at simply brushing things aside or focusing solely on the positive. If I'm sad, mad or angry, I need to process these emotions to find the root cause before I can move on. I'm not going to be stoic or keep a stiff upper lip to hide the way I feel.
I'm not knocking the world of positivity and optimism, as these are also tools in my toolbox. I just don't use them as a means to turn my frown upside down. Sometimes, I hold on to my frown while I work through my feelings.
When I'm in a bad mood, I just need the space to process, accept the situation and problem solve. Once I've completed the stages, I usually feel better and am able to handle the issue because I've given myself time to analyze it. So...do me a favor peeps, stop trying to cheer me up.
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